While we’ll leave you to judge whether the footage you’ve personally seen is real or staged, the good news is yes: squirting is a genuine phenomenon, and with a little bit of know-how and a fair stretch of patience, you can master the technique to get her there.
For many – men and women included – squirting is a mysterious occurrence. Where does the liquid come from? What does it feel like? And crucially, is it urine? You might laugh, but in 2014 the UK banned squirting in porn, apparently because it's difficult to tell the fluid apart from pee (which is also banned).
It isn’t urine, recent studies suggest – researchers reckon the fluid comes from the Skene glands, which are often loosely referred to as the ‘female prostate’ – but it’s also not entirely female ejaculate either, which is milky and white and produced in far smaller amounts.
By contrast, the fluid produced during squirting tends to soak the entire bed (though not always). It’s made up of a substance called urea, along with uric acid, ejaculation fluid, and creatinine (which is not to be confused with bodybuilder favourite creatine. So don’t get any ideas).
“The substance builds up in the bladder during good sex and releases at the point of orgasm,” explains women’s health expert Martina Mercer. “The simple fact is, it’s real, and it’s not wee. It’s actually a woman ejaculating. It feels great for a woman and now we know more about it, women can thoroughly enjoy the sensation.”
How to Make a Girl Squirt: Step by Step
While there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to making her squirt, there are techniques you can both try to make it more likely. Generally, squirting requires either G-spot stimulation or a combination of G-spot and clitoral stimulation. You’ll need two fingers, water-based lube and some free time. Oh, and plenty of patience.
It’s important you don’t put pressure on yourself or your partner to make her ejaculate, says Lelo sex expert Kate Moyle. “Squirting can be a part of an enjoyable sex life, but shouldn't be the be-all and end-all,” she says. “It may just be something that some women never experience and doesn’t define your sex life in any way.”
In any case, high expectations are likely to have the opposite desired effect, Moyle adds, by making you both tense and unrelaxed. “This will distract you from enjoying sex and the sensations that are the best part of sex,” she says. “The goal of sexual experiences should always be fun and pleasure.”
Step 1: Prep Your Surroundings
It’s not particularly sexy, but a little pre-emptive clean-up prep goes a long way. The amount of fluid varies from person to person – some might release a teaspoonful – but you’re best off chucking a towel down so you can both enjoy the moment, rather than stressing over any potential mess.
Step 2: Set the Scene
Make sure she feels completely comfortable and at ease, says Mercer. “If she has squirted in the past with a previous lover, she may be embarrassed about doing it with someone new and will seize up and contract her muscles in order to prevent it from happening,” she explains.
Step 3: Foreplay
Foreplay is crucial. We really can’t stress this enough. At the very beginning of foreplay, the top, bottom and sides of each breast is super sensitive, so gently caress these areas first. Build things up slowly from there, until eventually, you’re stimulating her clit with your mouth, fingers, or a toy.
Step 4: Find the G-spot
Then, with your palm facing upwards, insert two lubed-up fingers and make a beckoning motion inside her. Use tapping, stroking and caressing movements on her G-spot, which is located on the vaginal wall towards the stomach. You’ll know when you’ve found the right area because it feels rough, almost like the skin of an orange.
Step 5: Keep Going
For most people, squirting only occurs when this area is filled with blood, so when you feel her G-spot start to swell, don’t be alarmed, and definitely don’t slow down or stop (unless she wants you too, obviously). Keep the same finger motion and pressure going. If she feels like she’s about to pee, it’s a sign she’s about to squirt.
Step 6: Don’t Stress
While stimulating the G-spot area will help her to ejaculate, says intimate health specialist Dr Shirin Lakhani of Elite Aesthetics, it isn’t a guarantee. “It’s important to remember that women’s experiences of ejaculation vary a lot, so what’s normal for one could be very different to another,” she explains.
“There isn’t one medical failsafe way of recommending ejaculation to occur, it’s about working out what works for the individual – and often this comes through lots of trial and error. As with anything to do with sex, it’s important to know your body and communicate with your partner.”
How to Make a Girl Squirt: Sex Positions
While the manual method described above is often most effective, it isn’t your only option. If you’re wondering how to make a girl squirt during sex, any position that stimulates her G-spot and clitoris at the same time should have the same effect – we’ve picked three, below.
This move provides an ideal angle for you to reach the front vaginal wall. Opt for a shallower stroke to target the G-spot and hold a vibrator against her clit to make squirting more likely.
This is the ultimate position for dual G-spot and clit stimulation – plus, she’s in control throughout, which will get her fired up while at the same time removing the guesswork for you.
How to Make a Girl Squirt: Top Tips
Try a Toy
It’s the 21st century, which means there’s a whole world of massagers and vibrators out there that are specially designed to target the G-spot. Get shopping.
A bit of verbal communication can go a long way. Tell her how hot she is, let her know how much you’re enjoying it – it’ll help her relax.
Enjoy the Process
Consider squirting as a bonus, says Mercer, and don’t get disheartened if it doesn’t happen. “Either way, if you’ve found her G-spot and perfected the art of arousing her this way, you’ve made steps to give her the best orgasms of her life,” she says.
This article originally appeared on Men's Health UK.