Recently on Reddit, people have been sharing all the important things they wish they’d been taught about sex that would have saved them a whole lot of embarrassment and physical discomfort.
1. Condoms don’t stop everything
“Some STIs (herpes and some HPV strains) can be transmitted through skin to skin contact even if you use a condom. These STIs are very common and aren’t tested for by doctors unless you specifically ask.” – @The Ringmistress
2. You should pee after sex
“They never taught us to pee after sex. I always heard and read that you should but for some reason I didn’t think that you had to immediately pee after the sex sesh. Well, I’ve sure learnt my lesson. I ended up getting a UTI for the first time but I didn’t even know because it was asymptomatic. No pain, just thought I was dehydrated because I wasn’t passing much. Halfway through my night shift at work one night I went to the bathroom and immediately recognised something was wrong and I started getting pain on my right side. Ended up leaving work and drove myself to hospital at around 10pm. Admitted myself, got tested and and yep, I had a kidney infection. They pumped me full of hardcore antibiotics and hooked me up to fluids. Stayed there for a good few hours, went home and the next day started an antibiotic course for about 2 weeks. Was definitely a little scared.” – @ sugarcanechild
3. Foreplay is crucial, especially for women
While this isn’t so groundbreaking, it still seems to be a piece of advice that is quickly forgotten. The truth is most women need foreplay to orgasm and if you’re one who struggles with premature ejaculation, this can help prolong your sex session to make you look like a seasoned pro. Need tips: head here. Make sure you warm up the engine before flooring the accelerator.
“Foreplay makes alllllll the difference. Don’t rush that shit if you care about your partner climaxing. And don’t let porn vids be your guide. Ask your partner what they like and do that thing. Tell your partner what you like. Communication is key for good sex. Why make me pick the lock when I can just ask for the combination?” -@purpledrank7855
4. Porn isn’t real life
We cannot stress this enough: please don’t try and recreate porn in real life. It’s certainly not how most people are having sex, and for the most parts, it can be painful, especially for those who aren’t used to the intensity.
“I once heard Ron Jeremy long ago say in an interview, ‘if it looks good, it feels like shit to us doing it. When it feels good, it looks like shit on a camera.’ I then stopped trying to get the camera-angle-doggy bullshit, and go with whatever got us both going, and ya, you’re never going to film sex that feels good. This why the amateur category on porn sites looks like two people in a sleeping bag when a couple decides to put a camera on a tripod and film themselves. They are having a damn good time, feeling damn good, and it looks like shit from across the room.” -@Gryphin
5. Consent matters
Perhaps in the #MeToo era, this is certainly a topic regularly spoken about in high school. But people of yesteryear want to reiterate the message that wasn’t quite so loud when they grew up. Regardless of when people grew up, consent is absolutely necessary and paramount.
“No means no, but not saying no doesn’t mean yes by default.” – @hellomynameisli
