Make a play – and make it loud and clear.
Simply asking for what you want in the bedroom usually works, say researchers from Missouri Western State University.
Explicitly asking to try a new position, for example, succeeded 85 per cent of the time, says study author Dr Shawna Harris. “If you’re not willing to tell your partner what you want, then you’re not going to get what you want.”
Alas, most people aren’t asking: only 38 per cent of the study participants used the direct approach while 52 per cent were indirect, dropping hints.
Men in particular were more uncertain about how their partner would respond.
Harris suggests tempering your request with a statement like “I think it would be really fun and good for our relationship if we shake things up . . .”