Act Like a Horny Teenager
“You have to learn how not to let her be your best friend, but a sexual object,” says Engler. “And you have to be one, too.”
That sounds counter to everything women desire from a man. But when you’re in a monogamous relationship, women want you to view them with an “I-can’t-take-my-hands-off-of-you” gaze.
See if you can make mundane everyday activities sexier.
“If she’s just standing there washing the dishes, what would you do to her?” Engler says. “It doesn’t always have to be sex - it could be saying erotic things to her or flirting.”
This will take you back to how it was early in your relationship, when everything she did was hot.
Don’t Expect to Do It Every Day
If you initiate sex too often, you may end up with dull, obligatory intercourse, Engler says.
On the other hand, if you give her some room to want it, you’ll have hot sex with a horny girlfriend.
“Let go of the expectation that a couple who is truly in love should have sex every day,” she says. “It’s about quality rather than quantity.”
If you ever sense she’s not into a romp, simply pull back and be transparent. Say to her: “I think we’re just going through the motions. What would really get you in the mood?”
“That would be incredibly relieving to a woman,” says Engler. It also forces her to take ownership of her desire - and lets her dictate the tone of your romps.