We’re talking specifics: the motions, the rhythm, where to touch her and how. The research was then used to create a very X-rated educational website called OMGYES and will be published in a medical journal.
Looking at the findings, one thing is clear: don’t neglect the clitoris. Here’s exactly what she wants you to do with it.
TOUCH HER HOOD, NOT HER CLITORIS
A woman’s clitoris can be so sensitive that sometimes it almost hurts to be touched there directly.
That’s why 67 per cent of women like a technique the researchers call layering, which entails stimulating the clitoris through the hood that covers it (or other surrounding skin). More on exactly how to touch her in the techniques that follow.
OR GO AHEAD AND TOUCH HER CLITORIS
But don’t think that means that she never wants to be touched right on her clitoris.
Women crave different types of stimulation at different stages of their arousal. Two-thirds of women enjoy direct clitoral stimulation at some point during sex, the researchers found.
DRAW LITTLE CIRCLES ON HER CLITORIS
One of the most popular moves: the circle. Three out of four women love it when you orbit her clitoris with your fingers or tongue, according to the study.
There are lots of different ways to do this: you can use one or two fingers, and draw your circles above the clitoris (on the hood or just north of it), to the sides of it, or right on it.
TEASE HER CLITORIS
Seven out of 10 women said they like a technique called hinting, which means touching her near her clitoris – say you’re drawing little circles above it – and only occasionally indulging her with a direct touch.
Each time you touch her clitoris you can bring her closer and closer to orgasm.
PAY EXTRA ATTENTION TO ONE SIDE OF HER CLITORIS
Four out of 10 women crave extra attention on one side of the clitoris. That might mean pressing harder or slowing down in one spot as you draw little circles. The women were split on which side they liked better, so experiment on both sides to find the one that drives her wild.
KEEP UP A CONSISTENT PACE AND PRESSURE
For 65 per cent of women, consistency is the name of the game. No matter what kind of stimulation is going on – oral, manual, a vibrator – sticking to it with repetitive motions and a steady pace and pressure can help get her there.
OR MIX THINGS UP
Consistency is great, but so is a little surprise every now and then. Seventy per cent of women said they like it when you switch up your technique.
Ideas: occasionally suck or blow on her clitoris during oral sex or alternate between circles and back-and-forth motions when using your fingers on her.
TOUCH HER CLITORIS DURING SEX
During sex, 72.6 per cent of women either need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, or have better climaxes with the extra attention.