We all have different sexual fantasies, some more taboo than others. Whether it’s being tied up, being filmed or maybe it’s role-playing your favourite movies, when the numbers come out, it seems that we can all agree on what makes for mind-boggling sex.
According to a survey of 4400 people conducted by sex store Lovehoney, 57 percent of men agreed that climaxing together with their partner was the hottest experience.
“For around half of couples this is the absolute peak of sexual happiness, so we are always looking at ways to help them share orgasms together with greater consistency,” says Jess Wilde, resident sex expert at Lovehoney.
The study also reported that 75 percent of men orgasm every time they hit a home run, compared to 28 percent of women.
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The good news? What you do in bed can make all the difference.
Make sure you hit the right spot during penetration to stimulate the G-spot. "This is at 27-degrees and sex pillows can help to get you both into optimum pose for pleasure,” says Wilde.
But do you have the right move to ensure she shares the same happy ending right when you’re ready to explode? Here's the simple trick to get her curling her toes right when you want her to. Spoiler alert: it’s not doggy.
A Journal of Sexual Medicine study, released last year, wrote that not one woman who consistently climaxed said sex on all fours was her ideal position. They preferred to be on top – for better clitoral stimulation, says study author Dr Susan Oakley. When she’s riding you, have her tilt her bum up so your penis pushes against her front vaginal wall, making indirect clitoral stimulation more likely.
Sex therapist Ian Kerner agrees that Cowgirl or Girl-on-Top is one of the most efficient ways for women to orgasm, in his book, She Comes First: The Thinning Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. And who doesn’t like the view. When she’s enjoying herself, you’ll only get more turned on and you’ll know you’re good at your job. (Who’s the king in the sheets? You are!).
But if you’re struggling to go the distance and you’re trying to pace yourself, there’s a great option that will help her orgasm quicker with minimal use of your porks sword. Dirty talk can help keep her attention focused on the erotic sensations, says Dr Emily Nagoski, author of Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That will Transform Your Sex Life.
Not sure where to start? Begin by telling her how hot, warm and incredible she feels against you. Try taking control and commanding her to turn over when changing positions – some women find that hot.