Electric Cowgirl, not to be confused with the one in the Urban Dictionary (Don't look it up. Trust.*), combines the bonding eye contact that'll help heal your wounds, a little bit of “don't eff with me” energy and enough vibration to get some next level orgasms happening. A vibrating almost-cock ring is a non-threatening option for harder erections, and plus, depending on where you angle it, bonus vibrations to a perineum (aka the 'taint) or, even better, your partner's clit.
2 The Wheelbarrow
Couples who try “novel and arousing activities” together have better relationship quality, according to science. So try to master a silly/fun/weird-ass position like the Wheelbarrow to release those bonding chemicals. Have your partner balance on their hands while you hold their legs and (try) to enter.
3. The Fixer
Lie on your sides and face each other with your partner's leg over your hips. Slowly move against each other–rocking back and forth will help y'all self-soothe. Between kisses, whisper what you love and missed about each other. It can be earnest and sweet or full-on dirty talk–whatever brings you closer!
4. Up Against the Wall
If you still have some residual annoyance after resolving the problem, match it with urgent, must-have-you-now make-up sex. Your partner stands, pressing their back against a door jamb, with a foot pushed against the other side of the door frame for balance and any needed height adjustments. For bonus sexiness, you can lift your partner by the ass, and the jamb makes for easier hoisting.
5. The Throwdown
After a period of conflict, you might feel long overdue for a passionate sex session. Thrash and roll around, growl, pin each other down. If you're both into it, say mean-ish things to each other (with set verbal boundaries, obviously). It will lead to exactly the kind of release you need.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan