When Mike first joined Tinder, he didn't fill out the bio section. "That was a huge mistake," he said. "Once I put in a bio that was funny and playful and in my own voice, I started getting much better matches and dates." The key, Mike said, is staying true to your own voice, and putting something out there that seems approachable, but unique.
After the initial whale GIF, Mike says he'll always move the conversation forward with a unique message, asking his match something about their profile, their bio, and their pictures. He'll then use the information he has about them to start a conversation. "Whale hello there" starts things off on a lighthearted note, but without an actual opening it's just another line.
On Tinder, Mike said everyone can get a little prone to chatting too much. "I like to keep things moving," Mike said. After a few messages, he'll ask for her number and then start comparing schedules to see when they can get together for drinks.
On a first Tinder date, Mike says he always, always does drinks. It doesn't have to be a crazy night of boozing, but it also shouldn't be a formal dinner date. A casual drink at a bar is the perfect way to get to know another person in a setting where nobody feels too much pressure.
"Remember, that person is in the exact same shoes you are," Mike said. "If you feel nervous or shy, she’s thinking the same thing, too. You make it easier for everyone to have open, clear, concise communication."
Mike says he goes on two or no more than three Tinder dates a week. He's still single, but he's had a wide range of positive experiences while playing the field, from four-month relationships to dates that resulted in real-life friendships.
"It’s about making connections, it’s about building relationships with other people," Mike said. "I don’t see [dates that don't work out] as lost time or wasted opportunities." And when you're as popular as Mike, there are a lot of opportunities.