The relative part is more about how you two fit together. According to the Kama Sutra, the ancient Indian sex and relationship guide, penises are categorised as hares (that's the micro to small category), bulls (the medium category) and horses (the whoa!-that's-big category). Vaginas are deer (small), mares (medium) or elephant (large). Each combination has different things you can do to sex that @#$#@ up.
Whether you're an elephant or mare and your resident penis is a hare, you gots options, my friend. These positions work excellently no matter what size you are.
1. Oh Butt Yes
If you and your partner are interested in anal but haven't actually gone for it yet, now's the time. Your smaller member will be easier for your partner to take, and their bum might be a tighter fit for you.
2. The Super Sucker
Deep throating is much better for your partner—less gaggy!—with a smaller penis. If your partner is into submission, being on their knees before you heightens the I-am-servicing-you vibe, if they're feeling that. Later, you can repay your partner with your incredibly oral skills, as well.
3. The Seated Swoon
For this position, have your partner sit on your lap and lean back. Rub your partner's clit with your fingers while they thrust with short smooth strokes. If they have an orgasm before you do, they can move forward and change up their thrusts.
4. The Faux F*ck
Non-penetrative sex can feel even better than P-in-V for lots of people with vulvas, because it gives direct stimulation to the clit. For some P on V, your partner can lie on their back, elevate their pelvis with a pillow or two and curl their legs up. Lube up and slide the under shaft of your penis along their vulva. You can press hard and grind against your partner, or tease them by making circles around their clit with your head.
5 The Deeper Dog
Doggie is great for smaller equipment because you can go deep. To hit the maximum depths, have our partner lower their head onto the pillow and arch their back so their butt's tilted up for focused G-spot stimulation.
6. The Slippery Mermaid
Switch positions in missionary so your partner is on top, with their legs pressed together between yours. They can support their weight with their hands, while you slide in between their legs to enter them. Since you're on the bottom, you can thrust extra deep inside them, and they'll get the clit-stimulating benefits of girl-on-top. Plus the weird power reversal vibe makes this feel a bit subversive, which can be super hot.
7. The Really Good Dog
Doggie style is great for those with a small penis, because you can penetrate as deep as possible. Your partner can also change their position to make you both feel like they're taking you more deeply. To pull this off, they can try resting their head all the way down onto the bed or arching their back 'til you're hitting them in exactly the right spot.
8. The Slow Slider
Missionary turns into a whole different sexy slide-y beast if your partner just clamps their legs together tightly. They can rock their hips slowly and slide up on down on your penis in a completely delightful manner.
9. The Press 'N Play
In this position, your partner leans over the edge of the bed. You'll get one hell of a view, and doggy style lets you go super deep, using your partner's hips for extra leverage.
10. The Mortar and Pestle
In-and-out can be kinda meh with a smaller member, so try a circular grinding motion for more amazingness. Have your partner get on their back, tuck a pillow under their butt, and open their legs wide. Enter and grind against each other, rubbing your pubic bone against their clit.
This article originally appeared on Men's Health US.