1\ Try Oral
"If you've been doing it for a while and want to make it even better, see if oral sex anally is an exciting way for you to get aroused before penetration," says Greer. "If it starts to feel uncomfortable, stop until your muscles are relaxed enough to move forward."
2\ Double Your Pleasure
"If you have a vagina and a clit, use them," says O'Reilly. She suggests inserting a toy into your vagina during anal in order to "press against the cul-de-sac from both sides." By "cul-de-sac," she means the little space along the lower/back wall of your vagina, between the cervix and the vaginal wall. "Some women attribute orgasm from anal sex to this hot spot," she says.
3\ Try the "Lap Dance" Position
O'Reilly explains what this means exactly: "The penetrative partner sits on a chair, and their partner stands over them as though they're giving a lap dance. This not only provides a sexy view, but it also allows the standing partner to exercise total control."
4\ Incorporate Some Toys
If you really want to amp up the sensation, O'Reilly suggests playing with a sex accessory, like a vibrating penis ring.
5\ No Matter What...Always Be Safe
"The anus is sensitive and prone to tearing and infection," says O'Reilly. "Be sure to practice safer sex with lube and condoms." It's also important not to cross-contaminate: "You never want to put an object in your bum and then back into your vagina," she says.
6\ One Last Thing...
"If you’re not into anal sex, that's okay too," says O'Reilly. "You don't have to create a sexual bucket list and cross off every item in order to enjoy fulfilling sex life—you simply need to keep an open mind. If you're not into it today, you may want to revisit the possibility in a few months, as your erotic script, arousal pathways, and interpretations of pleasure are constantly changing."
This article was originally published by Women's Health.