Kissing isn’t all about tongue - it’s also about touch.
Holding her face while you lock lips shows that you’re fully engaged: “You’re pulling her in and helping her feel safe,” says Thomas. “Using your hands can make the experience more memorable.”
This is especially true if you haven't slept together yet, since women read way more into a kiss than you do. If you expertly touch her during a make-out session, she’ll likely infer that you’re skilled in the sack, says Thomas.
Sure, picking up a pen isn’t as erotic as other forms of foreplay, but the effort will pay off in dividends.
“When we feel valued and known, we feel connected,” says Lieser. “That’s where intimacy comes from.”
So leave her a note on her nightstand or bathroom mirror; it can be as simple as “I love you” or as sexy as “Thanks for last night. That was amazing.”
As cliché as it sounds, those few words will leave her thinking about you all day long - and ready for a repeat performance.
We’ve all heard this depressing stat: Only about a quarter of women consistently climax from intercourse alone. So why not get your hands in on the action?
In a recent Australian study, 71 per cent of women who had an orgasm during their last encounter said they combined manual stimulation and intercourse.
Your natural sex position for getting her off: spooning.
“You have easy access to her genitals from the front,” says Thomas. Plus, in this position, you’re less focused on thrusting - your bodies are super close, so the amount of work is minimal - making it easier to establish a rhythm when stimulating her.
When she’s going down on you, pleasure her - by playing with her hair.
“When we have our hair brushed or touched, it’s a very connecting experience,” says Lieser. “It illustrates empathy.”
In other words, the simple act of running your fingers through her follicles makes the experience feel more mutual - like you’re both in on the action.
This article was originally published on MensHealth.com