You meet a prospective partner at the bar and she tells you she loves that thing you do: ordering for her, making poor jokes or even owning the room with your loud personality. Suddenly, you have an edge over your competition and all you need to do is cement the relationship with your intentions and a bit of courtship.
Unfortunately, your dad jokes begin to wear quickly and you find yourself on her nerve. Nothing could have prepared you for this turn of events.
But now, women have taken to Reddit to share their ex-partner’s qualities that they once found cute but slowly caused them to lose interest in them.
“I still like him but at first he was always positive which I loved, but it also means he tries to avoid our problems which makes them get worse.” – whotookmymilkshake
“At first I loved the way nothing bothered him. He had a personality that he never let what I thought was little things get to him and effect his mood. Where as I’m the opposite. I worry over everything. Later on I realised it wasn’t just little things it was big things, like not being able to pay bills or child support. He Literally didn’t care about anything, even his responsibilities and in the end my feelings and goals. He cared about nothing and it was a huge turn off and ended us.” – CharlieCat912
“Guy I was dating: He texted about 100x a day and was very clingy. Nothing like getting out of a meeting at work and having a bunch of pointless texts waiting for me! ‘Not doing anything’ ‘Singing while driving’ ‘Where can I get boots’ (GOOGLE IT) It drove me up the wall.” – Lilipuck
“He was always super enthusiastic anytime he had something new in mind: ‘I’m going vegetarian! I’m quitting tobacco! I’m quitting weed! I’m starting X activity! I’m travelling to X country!’ (pick one). At first I really admired this.
He would never follow through with anything though, he just needed a goal for the month until he had a new one. His intentions were genuine but I could not blindly support him anymore after a while. It was like seeing someone fail on their New Year’s resolutions every week, it gets annoying.” – Jujugg
“I had a relatively long term boyfriend who always used to point out my negatives a lot. Usually only little things like ‘you could probably have cooked this steak a little better’ or ‘your handwriting really does look like a 9 year old’s’ and things like that. One day a switch just flicked and I realised I was getting small doses of criticism over any support or praise, and I immediately just stopped liking the guy” – bigbaggyjumper
“Called me ‘my woman’ and similar my-things. Sweet once in a blue moon, suffocating and possessive otherwise. Could not understand the difference and each time he did it it just made me simmer in unhappiness.” – YouveBeanReported
“When my ex told me he likes the same things as I do or has same opinions (mostly) as I do, I found him relatable initially. But later it started to get annoying since it seemed like he didn’t bother to form his own opinions. Also, I found out that he only said he agrees with me at times because he thought I’d like it.” –Blueglitter_11
