My husband and I have always had a pretty good sex life. But to be honest, we have our few tried-and-true positions that we use almost all the time. After being together for 11 years, we know what works for us, and on most nights it’s just easier to go with what you know. But since we both agreed we were in a routine, we felt ready to switch things up with a new sex position every night for a week.
That’s more times than we usually have sex (2 to 3 times a week is normal for us), but we were ready to get creative and flexible (literally - just keep reading).
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Jack started to laugh when I revealed that I knew about this position because I had seen it in a porno. I lay down on my back with my legs in the air, and he literally squatted over me, dipping his penis in and out my vagina like, yup, an old fashioned butter churn.
Jack was a little nervous about hurting my neck, but when I reassured him I was OK, we got into it. I think just doing something so different from our usual missionary-cowgirl-doggie style trifecta was a thrill for both of us.
Since I’ve been taking yoga for a few years, it was easy to get into this position simply by assuming a downward dog pose. He grabbed my legs and lifted them up and had nice, easy access to enter me. Honestly, it was a little awkward to stay in this position for too long but it was fun while it lasted.
Of course doggy style is one of our favourites, but this variation had me with my arms, head, and chest down on the pillow. It was nice in that I felt like I was taking a little break - my guy was definitely doing all the work here (and no, I didn't fall asleep, though I probably could have!).
We both liked this one because it’s not too complicated and it’s just different enough from what we usually do to add a little spice.
This is a position we used to do a lot when we first started dating, so for us it was kind of nostalgic - and hot. With Jack sitting in a chair, I simply backed up onto him, controlling the movement as I slid up and down.
We’re a pretty open-minded couple, so we were game for a little gender role reversal this night. While I lay face-up on the bed with my legs together, Jack straddled me and tried to push himself into the opening between my legs.
At first it felt a little silly to see him in what I felt was a really feminine position, but the sensations were so intense - for both of us - that we both finished quickly in this position.
There aren’t many sex positions that have left me feeling as exposed as this one - but in a good way. As I lay back on the bed, my ankles crossed behind my head - did I mention how handy yoga comes in? - I was totally open for Jack.
He loved the view and I was really turned on by the feeling of being so open for him.
This night, we sat facing each other during sex and it was an extremely intimate encounter. Jack sat cross-legged while I got on top of him. There was definitely some gazing-into-your-soul eye contact going on, which I’ll admit is probably a bit much for our usual 11 p.m. quickie - but it was pretty awesome to feel so connected during sex.
Overall, it was fun to try new positions and just to have sex a lot more than usual. We’ll probably take a few of these and incorporate them into our regular sex life. But really, it was just the idea of switching things up a little that helped to make sex feel new again - so I'd say mission accomplished!
This article was originally published on MensHealth.com