A blended orgasm brings in sensation from one (or more!) of those spots as well as the clitoris. The climax is stronger and longer, because the pleasure is coming from more than one area, says Zhana Vrangalova, Ph.D., who researches human sexuality at New York University.
If your partner is up for exploration, try these pleasure combinations. Hey, women love a man who can multitask.
Blend external clitoris stimulation with...
...G-spot
Best for: When you're new to blending.
The G-spot is the OG of erogenous zones. Find it by inserting one or two fingers into her vagina and hooking them up toward the belly button; you’re looking for a textured patch right behind the pubic bone. A combo of G-spot and external clit action is the easiest way to create a blended orgasm. Start by stimulating the external clitoris with your fingers or tongue, and then, when your partner is aroused, add G-spot stimulation. You can use a toy designed to hit that feel good region (don’t forget the lube!)—or use your other hand. Once you find it, try different massaging motions (circles, up and down) to see what she likes.
...O-spot
Best for: When you've mastered the G-spot.
The area behind the cervix (think: as far back inside the vagina as you can go) is sometimes called the O-spot, Vrangalova says. When stimulated together with the clitoris, it can feel out-of-this- world fantastic. Pressure is the MVP in this game, since the cervix has very few touch-sensitive nerve endings. While you’re working her clit with your fingers or tongue, insert your G-spot toy. This time, instead of moving it in circles, you’ll want to (gently) apply pressure to the cervix. As in, push the toy all the way in, and then push a teensy bit more.
...A-spot
Best for: When you're ready to go deep.
This elusive pleasure centre—technically known as the anterior fornix erogenous zone, which isn’t super sexy to say in bed—is located near the cervix, on the front wall of her vagina, an inch or two north of her G-spot. “Some call this spot the female prostate because it’s located analogously in the same position as the male prostate,” Skyler says. Hitting the A-spot means going deep. For most people, doggy style is the easiest way to reach it during intercourse—from there, you can reach around and touch her clitoris. You can also hit the A-spot through anal play—the vagina and rectum are closer than you’d think.
...Booty
Best for: When you're feeling really adventurous.
Combine anal play with a toy and digital or oral clitoral stimulation and your partner might be in for the most explosive orgasm she’s ever experienced. “The intensity of feeling full from anal penetration can enhance an orgasm,” Skyler says. “Basically, all the nerve endings in and around the anus are being contacted and pleasured.” You don’t need to go deep for your partner to enjoy it. While the anus is full of feel good nerve endings, they’re most densely clustered at the sphincter. When it comes to butt stuff, remember to go slow—and use lube.
Get an assist: Use a small, tapered butt plug for easy insertion.
...Nipples
Best for: When you want to involve her whole body.
The nerve endings in her nipples light up the same part of her brain as touching her clitoris does, according to fMRI research, so it’s only natural to combine them for an all-over blended O. Play with her nipples gently at first, using your fingertips or tongue. As she gets more turned on, you can upgrade to suction or soft pinches and nibbles. (If gear is more your scene, you can also use feather ticklers or nipple clamps.) As you tease your partner up top, use your fingers, your tongue, or a vibrating toy to keep the external clitoral stimulation coming.
Bonus:
Blend external clitoral stimulation with two or more hot spots!
If you’re the king of coordination, go for gold by stimulating multiple erogenous zones at once. Holly Richmond, Ph.D., C.S.T., L.M.F.T., a somatic psychologist and certified sex therapist, suggests popping in a butt plug for anal pleasure while you stimulate her G-spot and external clitoris. Or try sucking on your partner’s nipples while she’s using a vibrator on her clitoris during intercourse.
This article originally appeared on Men's Health
