"He remembered little things that I had talked about before that even I forgot about," said one woman. "Also texted me right afterwards telling me that he acknowledged that I had just gotten out of a long term relationship and didn't want to do anything out of my comfort zone but that he would love to see me again." It doesn't sound like a lot; listening really is bare minimum stuff, after all. But this guy made a point of proving that he'd been paying attention, and also that he understood her situation and respected her boundaries.
And while we're on the subject, that first post-date text can make or break things. "This is more after the date, but he didn't play any mind games and texted me that same night saying he had a great time," said another commenter. "It was refreshing for me." Another added: "Also, if arriving separately, texting to ask if I got home okay - shows you're still thinking of me."
Turns out, a lot of women like this straightforward approach: "He texted a little later to ask if I got home okay, and then said he’d love to see me again and proposed a date for the next weekend. Pitch perfect way to wrap up a date, and no stupid games."
OK, so games are a no-no. Also, while confidence is great, cockiness is less so. One woman on the thread said she likes it when a man isn't afraid to show a little vulnerability and put himself out there: "I think any time a guy has showed genuine nervousness with a little bit of giddiness I have wanted a second date."
"He would ask me if it was okay to touch me, and if I liked it," said another commenter. "It was OK and I liked it very much." There's an old school way of thinking when it comes to romance that paints asking for consent as unsexy, but really, what could be more of a turn-on than somebody telling you how much they want to be intimate? As this woman said: "Showing you care about your potential partner's pleasure is sexy."
This article originally appeared on Men's Health