Heighten Her Arousal with Smell
Spray a touch of the cologne that she loves on the sheets. A study by Indiana University found that women who fantasised while smelling a popular men's cologne were more aroused than while smelling women's cologne or a neutral odour.
Focus on the Details
Words she loves to hear: "That freckle is beautiful." Focus on unique details about her, and she'll know you haven't said the same thing to 47 other women.
Go to a Music Festival
Attend music festivals. "The rhythmic pulse of music lets listeners synchronize with one another, which can increase group cohesion," says Michael Cunningham, Ph.D., a psychologist and professor of communication. Music festivals attract a more diverse crowd than concerts, because of the different acts. Visit festivalfinder.com for events near you.
Put the Porn on Mute
Watch porn together without the sound on. Instead, you two provide the dialogue. Sure, you'll miss the snappy plumber-housewife banter, but you'll learn how to talk erotically, so it's educational. It's also fun, you're both invested in it, and it can help reveal fantasies.
Get Rid of Your Bedroom TV
Throw the TV out of the bedroom. It sucks up time and takes focus away from what the room is for.
Let Her Dress Up
She'll love you if you plan the occasional dress-up dates and impromptu weekend getaways.
Clean Without Her Asking
Do some impromptu cleaning, without her asking. Seduction is a day-long event, and the less she has to worry about, the more she can relax and have a good time.
Read Her Something
Read to her. It doesn't have to be erotica. It's an intimate activity that makes her focus on your voice.
Look for Nonverbal Cues
During foreplay, watch and listen for nonverbal clues—moans, thrusts, gasps. The better you're able to read her, the more likely you are to please her.
Keep Your Room Warm
Egyptian cotton and dimmer switches can't hurt, but your love chamber's thermostat is just as important. Imagine the ideal day at the beach. You want it just warm enough that she's happy to shed a layer or two, but not so hot that the two of you will end up drenched once you exert yourselves.
Harder and Faster isn't Always Better
Harder and faster isn’t always better. In the missionary position, barely penetrate her vagina or focus on shallow thrusts. Sometimes, let your penis rest just inside her. And occasionally remember to use it outside her vagina.
Make Her Feel Sexy After Sex
Tell her she's beautiful after sex. Women feel disheveled: messy hair, makeup smudged, clothes asunder. Make her feel sexy afterward, and you’re laying the groundwork for a repeat performance.
Ditch the Script
Tell your girlfriend or wife you want to go three sack sessions sans penetration. Ditching the same old script—foreplay, sex, cuddling—will help your creative instincts spring to life.
Rest Your Hand on Her Knee
When you're sitting next to your girlfriend or wife in the car, touch her nonsexually. Rest your hand a few inches above her knee. It's intimate, but not obviously sexual, so she won't think you're just looking for action at the end of (or during) the ride.
Keep Tongue Action to a Minimum
When kissing, a little tongue action is good, but don’t go crazy. Guys are notorious for tonsil spelunking, so stay in the front of her mouth.
Bring Her Close to Climax Before Sex
Use your hands to bring her close to climax before penetration, which will make an orgasm during intercourse much more likely. Here’s a new way to use your hands: Prop yourself up with pillows and have her sit so that she's facing away from you and leaning back against your chest. Reach around and use your fingertips or the flat of your hand along and between her legs in up-and-down, side-to-side, and figure-8 moves.
Talk About Your Favorite Moment
After sex, rather than offering an offhand platitude, mention something specific you love about her. Better yet, talk about a mind-blowing moment to let her know it was worth remembering.
Make a Sex Reservation
Make a reservation for sex. Tell her what you're going to do after you carry her over the threshold of the new house, or detail your intentions for the outdoor shower after your day at the beach. It'll plant some passion-packed seeds for later.
Unleash a New Skill
If you've got a new sexual skill, by all means, break it out. But do so with respect for the mood, and for her reaction; if it's not working, let it go.
Source: Men's Health
