The Secret: Wet dreams in adults
Termed ‘Nocturnal Emissions’ medically, wet dreams actually occur not uncommonly in adults too (and yes, women have them as well). So if you’re still having them now and then at 32, you’re not alone.
Technically a wet dream represents a stimulation-free orgasm that occurs during REM sleep. They’re linked to testosterone fluctuations as well as to times when sexual activity drops off, but exact what’s and why’s aren’t fully known. Surprisingly wet dreams aren’t just linked to erotic dreams either and can happen in any dream full stop (which might be comforting to know for those “what the…” morning moments).
This one doesn’t necessarily need a solve per se. If you do still get them it’s likely it’s rare, but either way it’s not a sign of something wrong. Myths that wet dreams hit sperm health or are a sign of repressed sexual needs aren’t backed, so don’t read in too deep. If they’re happening a lot research suggests avoiding sleeping on your stomach and getting more ‘daytime emissions’ in might help.
The Secret: Sleep Talking & Walking
There was always one kid at the sleepover right (maybe that kid was you). Stats for regularly walking and talking overnight hit less than 5% of adults, but for those who do it can be a real dampner on R&R.
In an opposite way to sleep paralysis, parasomnias like this represent a failure of the brain to keep the body ‘off’ while we’re asleep. Talking and walking are fairly common, but complex behaviours like sleep eating, working and even sex are known too.
Locking in a sleep routine with timing, avoiding caffeine and alcohol, reducing stress levels and avoiding stimulating the brain with blue light before bed can all really help here. For more frequent or potentially dangerous night walkers certain medications are often effectively used. You’ll be pleased to know too that it’s a myth that it’s dangerous to wake a sleep walking/talking person, however this might cause upset or disorientation, so guiding them gently back to bed is best.
The Secret: Teeth Grinding
Partner been asking why you were rubbing china plates together all night? Chances are you’ve got what medicine calls Bruxism. Nightly tooth grinding is actually something that most of us do now and then, but roughly 10% of adults will grind and clench on the regular.
Grinding overnight can increase with stress, too much caffeine, alcohol and drugs or from jaw muscles wound tightly in the day. Tell tale signs include an aching jaw or dull headache in the morning, and (of course) an elbow in the ribs from bae.
You’ll be pleased to know that looking after sleep hygiene can benefit bruxism too. Getting help to reduce stress or anxiety, reducing caffeine and lightening nighttime alcohol or drug use can really help. For those with dental damage or more severe effects, fitted mouth guards and further medical options work so book in with your dentist or doc.