For guys, foreplay is just a prelude - a fun (but not that fun) teaser you have to get through before the main event. Not so for women, Morse says. Kissing, touching, caressing, and oral and manual stimulation will help her reach climax quickly once you’re inside of her, she says. If you have the time, Morse recommends at least 20 minutes of foreplay before you move on to sex.
But if you want to speed things up, mix in some dirty talk. “For many women, words are aphrodisiacs—especially when those words are full of affirmations that fill her need to feel sexy,” she says. Her advice: “Paint a verbal picture of all the things you want to do to her while whispering in her ear. Your warm breath on her ear will send chills down her spine.
“Vibrators are fun and easy to use, whether during foreplay or the main course,” Morse says.